How To React When You Dislike A Gift

Dec 05, 2022 by Julia Van Huizen

Updated: May 29, 2023

I love my mom, but, bless her soul, she isn't the best gift-giver.

Over the years, I have been given a crystal dish in the shape of a fish, a hooded blanket that made me look like an Ewok, and a plethora of other knick-knacks and clothes that have helped me "perfect" the Thank-you-I-love-it look.

You probably know what I mean. You may have not been given an Ewok cape like me, but you may have been given that, Do-you-like-it? look when you were given a gift that wasn't quite your cup of tea.

So, to help you out this Christmas, I'm sharing 5 ways to help you respond to a not-so-great gift without damaging the giver!

1. HIDE YOUR FACE BEHIND THE ITEM
I once saw my sister-in-law perfect this move. She pulled out an ugly Christmas sweater from the box and held the sweater in front of her face while her face registered shock at the hideousness of the sweater. Then she pushed a smile onto her face, lowered the sweater and said, "Thanks, Mom!" A move that kept her mom's dignity in tact.

2. HIDE YOUR FACE BEHIND A HUG
Similar to #1, you can right away reach out to give the giver a hug (if you are on hugging terms). A hug gives you a few moments to put your expression "in order" while still providing appreciation for the gift and giver.

3. SMILE... AND STARE
If you're unsure how you're going to react to a present, start smiling before you even open the gift. Then once you open the gift, keep smiling while staring at the gift. Pause. That moment of staring can mask the look in your eyes. Then respond with something general like, "Wow. Thank you so much for thinking of me! I appreciate your thoughtfulness.

4. COMMENT ON A CHARACTERISTIC
Perhaps you're struggling to say something positive. But you can certainly comment on "something" you appreciate about the gift: "I love the colour!" or "I really like this brand" or something else may help you stay positive and appreciative.

5. WORDS AND WONDER
If you're looking for the "right" words to say in response to a not-so-palatable present, work your words into wonderment. Say, "Wow. What a gift. What made you think of this?" You never know, it could start a cool conversation that shows the thoughtfulness of the giver and helps you feel more appreciation.

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I poke fun at gifts that make you grimace, but we all know, it's really not about the getting. It's all about the giver. We give because Christ gave to us. It's about the love. The thought behind the gesture. And when it comes to gestures, Christ made the hugest one of all. He gave His life so that we can live. And, I don't know about you, but that's one gift I'm eternally grateful for!

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