If you’re trying to recover from a broken relationship, don’t rush into another one. As you become healthy, you begin to make healthy choices. Some hurts take a long time to heal, but don’t be discouraged—“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Give God a chance. Take time to search His Word and find out how He feels about you, for that’s the true basis of all self-worth. If God can love and accept you with full knowledge of your imperfections, then the message is: “Lighten up on yourself!” You can love and be loved again, but only with the same wholeness with which you love yourself (see Matthew 22:39). Next time, make sure your choices are healthy ones and not based solely on need or the fear of being alone. And be careful; when you don’t value yourself, you attract people who feel the same way about you, including those who seek to control you. You deserve better, so hold out for it. Remember, you train others how to treat you by how you treat yourself. As you become whole, you’ll start to see how unwholesome some of your relationship choices have been. If some people walk away, “so be it.” Sometimes you’ve got to give up less so that God can give you more. He has new relationships in store for you, but He’s waiting until your values, perceptions, and self-worth line up with His Word. So take it step by step, one day at a time. And rejoice—your best days are ahead!